Some say they should be free to exercise their freedom of speech.
Some say they should be expelled.
Some say President Boren was too harsh and the other fraternity members shouldn't be punished for the actions of a few.
Some say they were just idiots and we should let it go.
Some try to turn it around and point the fingers by saying "blacks are racist too!"
I want to talk to all of my white friends for a minute. I was once like you. I was raised in a good, Christian home. I was taught to love my neighbor and help those in need.
But I was also taught that black people are scary. And you should lock your doors when there's a chance you'll encounter one.
I was taught that "Jesus loves the little children, all the children of the world."
But somehow I also picked up the idea that dolls with brown skin were less beautiful than the white ones.
Luckily, I grew up and set those archaic notions behind me as I pursued the heart of Jesus and understood his love. And as we set out to adopt a child, the paperwork in front of us had a list of races. We had to choose which ones we would accept. Let me tell you, there's nothing that will bring out true feelings more than adoption paperwork! We prayed about it and talked about it. We worried about the racism our child would experience in our little world. And ultimately, we decided that we would be open to whatever child, whatever race, whatever gender was okay with us. More than okay! If people didn't like it, they could remove themselves from our lives.
Is that harsh? Maybe.
But here's the deal. There's no room for racism anymore. There's just not.
You can't blame society, you can't blame your parents, you can't hide behind your freedoms.
So, I say to you white people....have you ever loved a black person? If no, then you have no argument here.
If yes, then you could probably understand the pain that comes with that chant. To think that my precious child will face being excluded, ridiculed, threatened, and belittled because of his skin is BEYOND MY COMPREHENSION.
I've seen a lot of these comments "I'm not a racist, but..."
And that's how I know a racist comment is about to follow.
People! Let this be a chance for you to stop and think about your internal dialogue regarding this incident.
How do you truly feel about it?
What side are you on?
And what does that say about you?
You may be a "good, Christian person" like I was before I loved a black person. Before the day I held him in my arms and promised I would lay down my life for him. His life matters. It matters just as much as yours. And there is no room for arguments anymore. Racism, in any form, needs to end.
Check your actions, check your list of friends, check your though pattern about this. "I'm not a racist, but..." leaves too much room for ugliness to sneak in.
Instead, let's start the conversation by saying "I'm sorry, my precious friends, that you have to -once again- be reminded that racism exists. Help me do what I can to stop it."